When you arrived in the UK, it probably took a while to get used to the language, the accents, English food, the education system, and all the rain. Now that Stoke-on-Trent feels familiar, don’t be surprised if you need some time to readjust to life when you return home. This is called reverse culture shock. It doesn’t affect everyone but If you do need time to adjust, don’t be frustrated, its normal.
How to prepare
Preparing for reverse culture shock is made easier by understanding that it is a very normal reaction, and that you might experience it. Home students travelling 30 miles away after graduating find it hard to adjust to life after university, and that’s without the challenges of a different language, time zone, culture, religion or reconnecting with loved ones they’ve not seen in a long while. Appreciate what a brave and challenging decision it was to embark on study in another country, and don’t give yourself a hard time for not feeling completely at ease on your first day back at home.
Some common issues that you may find challenging are:
Family and friends
As happy and exciting as your homecoming will be, it can still be a challenging time for you and the people who’ve been missing you. You might feel that you’ve changed a lot while in the UK, but your family and friends may expect you to be the same as when you left and find it difficult to get used to the ‘new you’. You may have enjoyed a lot of freedom in how you spent your money, who you had relationships with and how you spent your free time, which might be difficult for both you and your family to readjust to. Of course, they’ll have also changed in the time that you’ve been away: you may be surprised by how much older your parents and younger siblings seem. Friends may have got married or had children.
Customs and ideas
When you first came to the UK, you’ll have adapted to cultural differences, which in time you came to take for granted. When you return home, it may also take time for the customs and ideas that were once so familiar to you seem normal again.
Challenges can include:
- how people dress
- how food is prepared and served
- how women and men are expected to behave
- administrative procedures
- attitudes to timekeeping
- tolerance for minority views.
If your children have been with you in the UK, they may also find it difficult to adapt to your home culture. As well as the above, they may miss friends they have made over here and their school system, teaching and subjects could be very different from the UK.
Work
If you’re returning to your previous job at home, there may have been changes or you’ve lost touch with important information or developments. You may also sense some jealousy from colleagues who wish they’d had the same opportunity to pursue their education. Lack of equipment or funding means may mean you’re not able to use all the skills that you worked so hard to develop during your study.
Economy and politics
Your country may have experienced economic problems. It could be difficult to buy things that you’ve had in the UK or you’ll need to go without some of the conveniences you’ve been used to. You may feel out of touch if a different government is in power or new political groups.